David Davies, Member of Parliament for Monmouth, in swipe at David Cameron’s proposals to allow Gay Marriage, he is also going allow Churches, if they so wish, to marry same-sex couples in Church. I have no problem this, but at the same we need to disinfranchise the Church of England because the legal set up is that because it is the State Church it has to marry everyone, or least everyone can get married in the Church, just as everyone is part of a Vicar’s Parish regardless of faith, or lack of one. Another solution used widely is that ALL marriages are performed by a Registrar, and a religious wedding takes place later – and that is fair, and that is equal.
Mr Davies is of the persuasion were some people are separate but equal, not only against same-sex couples getting married in Church, but also getting altogether. A quote from his website, where he blatantly displays his heterosexual credentials says:
I am completely against any form of discrimination towards people who are gay and I do not believe it’s the role of government to decide who should live with who or what sort of commitment they make to each other. Equally I believe people should be free to follow their religious beliefs, whilst accepting that many people within different religions do not recognise the validity of gay marriage.
Not only does he put forward the spurious argument that Churches will be forced to perform gay marriages, that is a red herring, but that maintain an antidiscrimination he then goes to justify the current discrimination. Indulge me a few paragraphs and let me this to shreds before I hurl the computer out of the window in the general direction of Monmouth.
His latest quote, which was designed to spark controversy (he more or less admits it) is:
“I think most people are very tolerant and have no problem at all if people are gay but – and I hate to say this, in a way, because I expect it’s going to cause controversy – but I think most parents would prefer their children not to be gay, knowing most parents want grandchildren if nothing else.”
I remember vividly watching a film in my late teens – like many gay people of my generation we were searching for role models and affirmation of our sexuality that we were not freaks – called Sgt Matlovich v USAF and chronicled the life of Leonard Matlovich who was a equal opportunities officer, the one line from the film which has stuck with me is:
“the two words which sound discrimination are ‘all and ‘but’
‘I like black people BUT …’ and ‘ALL black people …’ I think when someone starts to talk for the majority without actually knowing the majority we have bigotry. I guess the majority of Davies’ friend do feel that that they would rather have ‘straight’ kids rather ‘gay’ kids, I don’t know the circles he mixes in, but the circles I mix are fairly gay and most of the stories are positive and affirming, and parents love their children. My partner’s family is fairly religious and I am treated as part of the family, I am not sure if his Dad understands the ‘gay thing’ but neither do I understand the ‘straight thing’ but we don’t let that bother us.
Of course it assumes that all heterosexual couples want children, the birthrate in this country, and the number of childless couples, by choice, is rising – it is not uncommon for couples not to want Children. It is comforting to know that I am ‘tolerated’ by the likes of David Davies, especially after the pain that I have caused my family by gay in the first place, and not having children. The more I think about the comment, the more I want to hurl a computer out of the window!
I feel comforted that an MP for Monmouth can talk for over the half the families in the UK with such confidence. Most parents I know are really happy knowing that their children are healthy, receive a good education, meet someone they love who will walk with them along the journey of life, I think most parents are happy if their children come and visit them, and keep in contact, and I am sure most parents are happy knowing their children enjoy their lives. Again, looking at my circle of friends, I am safe in the knowledge that three of my partners have procreated, and not to keep their parents happy, so again we have a total lack of understanding.
I end with my favourite quote from Loving v Virginia in 1967
Marriage is one of the “basic civil rights of man,” fundamental to our very existence and survival…. To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State’s citizens of liberty without due process of law
I think Mr Davies needs to out of rolling hills of Monmouth and take a look at the real country and the lives of real people for a change, we are not here to please our parents, we are here to live fuflilled and productive, regardless of who we love.