In two unrelated press feeds the medical establishment of California and the United Kingdom has condemned ‘reparative therapy’ as ‘quackery’ and does not have a place in the medical lexicography. Many words have been written about Gay Rights, and whilst these guidelines are not new, I have never been asked by my GP if I wanted to be cured of being gay, it is good that this is being kept repeated. The sad thing is that it has to be repeated.
Whilst we can all jeer and howl at the people who believe they can ‘pray away the gay’ we should remember that the idea that being gay is not a medical condition leads to conclusion that as a gay person I should be accorded all the rights, privileges and responsibility of an everyday Citizen – sorry ‘Subject’ of HM Queen. That means I pay my taxes, I fight in their wars and I love, and I build a community of respect and acceptance. I have to take on the responsibility of being inclusive of diversity, in all its forms, based on meritocracy (please leave my pro-Monarchy views on the side, please, I am on a roll here).
Because I am not a medical freak, and aberration of nature, I expect my elected leaders to challenge all those who would classify me as such, one case in point the Catholic Church over the pronouncement over Equal Marriage. Don’t get me wrong I am happy to fight my own battles with the Church, having be thrown out of a church for being gay I am used to it, but I want the State to fight for those who cannot fight for themselves.
In the Gay Activist blog – and I would recommend anyone to subscribe to – Mary McAleese, former President of the Irish Republic – expressed her concern to the Papal Annuncio at the Catholic Church’s stance on homosexuality:
“They will have heard words like disorder, they may even have heard the word evil used in relation to homosexual practice. And when they make the discovery, and it is a discovery and not a decision … that they are gay, when they are 14, 15 or 16, an internal conflict of absolutely appalling proportions opens up”. She said many young gay men are driven into a place that is “dark and bleak”.
Whilst we need to open a dialogue with the those people who are homophobic, we also need to make them stop when their remarks drive people to bully, or murder, people who are gay, and we also need to them stop, as the Mary McAleese points out, to stop the Church from driving vulnerable people into self-loathing, self-harm and suicide. Quite literally, in the name of God, the Church has to stop.
The Church, and this is the hierarchy not the laity, has stop it’s its pathological hatred.
I can understand why some people have a total abhorrence towards the Church because of its vileness, but that is not what God intended – honestly.
Whilst we must look towards the future whilst we celebrate the present, we should always remember those who made today possible. We must remember the Matlovich‘s the Turin’s and the Quentin Crisp‘s of this world who made today a little easier, and we owe to ourselves to remember those people who were ‘gay bashed’, persecuted and those who lived lives of quite desperation with women whom they did not love, because loving a man was ‘wrong’.
There is so much wrong with this world, there is so much that needs doing, that we need to move on from the debate of matters of identity and choice, we need to get on working on the important things in life. Let us all enjoy the diversity of life, of a God that made us all, in his image, let each of one us ‘be’ us.
In 1991 I went to New York and there was an exhibition of Gay Rights Movement in the city, at the start of the exhibition was the story of a man, I think he had been a Marine, who had been kicked, punched, and stabbed to death because he was gay.
I could not understand why, as I stood there, tears filling my eyes.