I think at times the Gay Community is too far up its own ass – to use an Americanism.
Reading the apology of Jason Alexander, which is moving, sincere, in-depth, and honest I could not help but think that the Gay Community wants to be treated as a special case. I come from Yorkshire and humour is slung across the Pennines with Lancastrians with – pun intended – gay abandon, at work we tell jokes about each other (being from Yorkshire I tend to make jokes about myself first, before turning the guns onto other people) and we all make jokes about our neighbouring cities, countries – and continents.
Could someone tell me why the ‘gay community’ cannot stand a little fun being poked at it?
To make fun of someone is to say “I am comfortable with you” and that the subject is not now taboo, it is in the mainstream and ‘fair game’. I did not see the show but from the description of Jason Alexander it was a bit of harmless humour.
I think I can work out the psychology of ‘been given permission to laugh at someone’ but as long as the jokes are good-humoured, not malicious then I am fair game – bring it on. The gay community has to lighten up, and take time to make fun of ourselves, we want equality but when it is served we cannot deal with it, why? I am exceptionally fortunate – wait no I am not exceptionally fortunate I am just fortunate – to work in an office where being is Gay is not an issue, and its normal ‘blokey’ sort of industry, and its great. I enjoy the right to say ‘cor, top totty‘ when Tomasz Schafernaker came on TV, and shared a perv with the girls when he appeared topless on the cover of a magazine. I have also the right to discuss my partner, my stresses in the commuting just like everyone else – if that is the case then they have the right to have a laugh at my sexuality using stereotypes – as I laugh at them! Its called being normal.
The minority of gay people who got upset about ought to think about how they want to interact with society – as a special case or just to be invisible ?
As long as the ribbing is good-humoured then it is called being normalised.
Jason Alexander was exceptionally humble in his apology (though not needed) and eloquent – I would recommend that you read it.